Making a life commitment to another human being is probably one of the most vulnerable things we can do and doing it consciously with support is one way of securing the best outcome. On average couples spend 1 year planning their wedding day and £20000 to make it special and memorable. Why not go that extra mile and book up to come along for a relationship check? Invest a little of your budget to ensure that your marriage is as joyful as your wedding day!
My work, with couples who are preparing to make a life commitment to one another, consists of a short series of meetings, anything from just one session to three or four. It is a proactive approach to pre-empt problems and prepare you well for enjoying a long and happy relationship with each other.
Before we meet I will ask you and your partner (separately) to complete and return a checklist which will explore your individual attitudes and expectations of factors such as:
It will also identify your respective communication styles and emotional expression which are very important features of any couple relationship. When we meet we can discuss the results in the context of your experience of one another and check out how your differences work for you, and against you, as a couple. We may go on to meet another 2 or 3 occasions to work on any issues that arise.
This is especially true if it is your second-time round for either or both of you. Usually, second marriages can be a little more complicated, perhaps with children being involved. This makes the pragmatics exponentially more difficult so why not go in with eyes wide open and with a robust relationship that will weather the extra considerations second time round.
Sue Johnson, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships